My husband says that I have ODD. I can see that as true since I have never liked people telling me what to do. But now it seems that everything I do, if he doesn’t like it, “It’s your ODD”. For example, if he wants me to be in a certain position for being intimate because it is more comfortable for him and I gradually move out of that position for me to be more comfortable, he thinks I am being difficult or not doing it because he asked me to. If an ADD person does things to get a rise out of others in order to get brain stimulation, how can I trust that I moved for comfort and not for chaos. How can I convince my husband that I have some legitimate reasons for doing what I do that (I feel) are unrelated to ADD or ODD?
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Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Updated on January 5, 2017 in
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I’m really glad you reached out, JeanGrey. Oppositional defiance is defined in large part as resistance to an authority figure, not to your spouse. When it comes to physical intimacy, you are ALWAYS in charge of what is acceptable or not, and what is comfortable or not for whatever reason. I think this is an important issue for you as a couple to learn about each other’s perspective and needs, and I would encourage you to discuss this with a counselor if possible, or in a safe space away from the bedroom. Best to you-Coach Zoe
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