Thank you Coach Zoe—-
I am already feeling a bit stabiler in mood ! (3 weeks into program for hormone balancing, supplements, nutrition changes)
Best example of change I’ve noticed, Normally if I talk to my boyfriend (dating 1.5 yrs) about something depressing or personal, I end up breaking down in tears. Even prior to that for the past several years I’ve been prone to crying on my own or in personal situations a lot.
The other night, my boyfriend told me maybe the most depressing things he’s ever said, but I didn’t cry until 30+ Minutes into the convo. I was able to be a better listener and support.
Which brings me to another topic/question..
If I am progressing with trying to get help for my depression, but my boyfriend is very reluctant to get help of any kind…
what are some good motivator tips I can use without upsetting or insulting him?! Besides just setting an example I’m trying to be patient.
Backstory- we are both late 20s. He has very little money (Living w a friend for very cheap), no car (atlanta isn’t easy to get around in without one) anger issues, some signs of bipolar, health issues, poor diet, and depression on and off for 15+ years. He is holding a job but doesn’t love it. He waivers between being nice and being mean to me and others in his life.
I’ve offered to pay for him to go to the alternative health place I’ve been going to. He said he will go but he doesn’t think it will help at all.. :/ He has also said earlier this week that he’s not sure if he’d care if he died right now. Then next day he’s not as dramatic and told me he would try for me/our relationship. I’m afraid he’s in a cyclic broken cycle where he can’t even get the energy to try to change.
He wishes he had the resources to go somewhere like a long vacation or move towns or go to a holistic rehab (he’s been once before a couple yrs ago thanks to his mom). he smokes weed and drinks pretty rarely. Sometimes rarely he partakes in party substances like coke and molly). Moreover, he has morphed from happy, patient, and funny with me to more often being sad or angry and short tempered. He knows he hasn’t always treated me well verbally and always apologizes after the fact and seems to feel guilty. He also has really been sad about Trump bc he is black and associated with Muslim community.
Thank you in advance