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Depressed and in need of help

Updated on May 19, 2021 in Anxiety & Depression
1 on May 18, 2021

I am 30 yr old male. I have gone too far and have become too negative in my outlook. I feel like trapped in my job. I have stopped learning for all these years. May be I was never supposed to be in IT. But I don’t know where I belong. I somehow managed to get my degree. I never had a girlfriend. I have Masturbation addiction as well for close to 13 years. Many of my friends are doing better in life. I am not a skilled employee. I don’t deserve to be called an engineer, when I know in reality how I barely passed because of relative marking in my post graduation degree. It seems like a joke to have this PG degree. I don’t feel comfortable with all these dilemma and false sense of pride. I am one of the 90% of the employee who just survived due to other employees who really put in the work. I sometimes feel like, may be I have not grown up yet.

 
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Thank you for your honest post, and for having the courage to reach out. We are very glad you are here.

Negative self-worth and judgmental self-talk comes from many different places: our family, genetics, society, environment, and connections (or lack thereof) with others. There is hope to build a life that feels more authentically YOU, and therefore satisfying and balanced.

I would highly recommend you find a therapist, either individually, or in a group therapy context to begin to work through some of these hard emotional experiences and self-judgements. I would encourage you to look for a therapist through www.psychologytoday.com or www.goodtherapy.com.

Best to you-Zoe

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