My husband has been in s nursing home since JAnusry. He’s progressively gotten worse. He hasn’t been able to move or talk snd his feet and hsnds are clenched. Around 1 &1/2 months ago he was unable to swallow anything but liquid , and it came to the point that he couldn’t swallow at all. He was rushed to the hospital , by my son and me harassing the doctors. He was then given a G tube , ( a feeding tube in the stomach) and was treated for severe bed sores. He then was put in another nursing home, they heavily sedated him on a parkinsons medication, then they gave him a decatheter, because his urine was hitting his bed sores. The urine backed , and he was rushed o the hospital. They found out he had kidney problems from the backed up urine. The bed sore from as operated on because it became a stage four. Now he is the n a Kindred hospital with a blood infection due to antibiotic resistance. I tried for hospice 2 months ago. The person that has durable power attorney refused. I’m goiing to court to get temporary conservatorship to get him hospice. I cannot stand to see him in this much pain. Having trouble with sleeping at night. I’ve been listening to your hypnosis and meditation tapes in the morning .they really help me to calm down and think straight. I really like when you mention about going down the wrong road and saying,” and then what?” I’ve been eating right , drinking right, and taking my supplements that I’ve learned about from listening to you and reading your many books. I’ve followed Tana’s diet plan.
i am in much grief, but insist on being a brain warrior. My husband just ate and drank whatever he wanted.never exercised . Unfortunately he was never a brain warrior for his health. Now he’s paying. I wiil get through this taking car of myself the best I can. I thought before I went to Thsnksgiving dinner what I was going to eat beforehand. I only ate turkey, one piece of ham, and vegetables. I was fat in my past. Don’t want to go there again. I don’t want to ever go through the things my husband is going through, or experience some of the horrible thing I’ve been through in the past. My life is good. Thank you
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Melind246, my heart goes out to you as you share your husband’s suffering. Have you tried the hypnosis and meditation audios for him, or soothing music? Also, I know someone for whom certain essential oils have helped with pain. Will be praying for you both.
Thank you. I am doing either one of Dr amens meditation or hypnosis in the morning. I have tried a little soothing music , not much. What essential oils do you use and howcdo you use them.? The pain is sometimes almost unbearable. Sometimes I don’t know whether to get hospice or not because he seems stable at this point. He’s comfortable and not crying like many times . Kindred seems to be taking care of him good. Now the doctor has him on full code which is not in his trust. I guess I talk to my lawyer when she gets back from vacation. I also have my mom to visit and help out.Sometimes I feel crazy. The best way for me to stop my pain is to dance. The days I dance I’m so happy. I also play a little table tennis.My neck has been hurting from past tennis injuries a car wreck and roller skating accidents and excessive table tennis playing. So. Just started playing once a week. I was so upset one night that I called one table tennis friend after another to talk to. I didn’t talk much about what was going on but it felt good to talk to them. I didn’t know how else I was going to get through that night sane. That you for responding. I just sometimes need to talk to someone. At this point I just don’t know what to do about my husband. I think if I put him on hospice my son will think in trying to kill him.
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You are doing the things Dr. Amen advises — avoiding things that hurt you, eating healthfully, reaching out to others, learning new information, dancing. Music really affects our moods, so maybe your husband would enjoy a different kind of music — more upbeat and carefree, like some light jazz or “elevator music” for a little while at a time. And, I think that Dr. Amen has a hypnosis audio for pain reduction — although you would probably have to buy the “Medical Hypnosis” CD set to get it (which is pretty expensive at $60). — That clenched-hand thing sounds like a brain problem to me. I used to wake up and have to pry my fingers open, but that disappeared over time with healthier lifestyle changes. Maybe your husband can feel better, too. I wish he had a “functional medicine” doctor (like Dr. Mark Hyman at the Cleveland Clinic) to make recommendations on diet and supplements. Is the reason you want your husband to have hospice care, because you think they will better manage his pain?
I font know if anything could be done at this point other then trying to listen to the doctors in the hospital. He can’t commute because he can’t move or even sit up. I’m sure it is a brain problem though . Your Right. I don’t want to see him go through any of this nonsense anymore. He’s been through the mill. I contacted my husbands attorney and he’s gong to look into if full code would apply if something happened. It would depend if he was considered dying he thought. Now he’s stable. I just don’t want to see him go through anymore of these pain nful things. I think he is aware but cannot verbalize. The hypnosis audio for pain is fantastic. I’ve listened to it myself. I’m afraid my husband would cry and at this point he can’t even say stop. On the upbeat. I got the brain Warriors way cookbook today. It is very thick, beautiful pictures of the food and has yummy looking recipes. I’d highly advice anyone to get it. I also want to know about what kind of ssential oils can be used for pain or anything else and how you use them. Thanks
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